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I am wanting my account to be deleted and all forum websites to be in my past due to the lack of respect i am getting from forum websites these days.
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People get respect when they earn it. Asking for your account and your posts to be deleted only makes you look bad. If you are being truthful you would not feel the need to edit your posts or to ask to have them removed.
Why not show some maturity and start posting like everyone else. Quit blaming your problems with the forums on other people. It is your own behaviour that has caused your problems and nothing will change until you change. People have told you they are willing to forgive so you can start over but your behaviour does not change. The more you try to cover things up, the worse it makes you look. Yes, it is going to take a while to live down the way you have acted but you are the one that is keeping it going. People have told you why you are having problems yet you don't change. It's almost as if you like to have all this drama.
You want respect, then start earning it.
Why not show some maturity and start posting like everyone else. Quit blaming your problems with the forums on other people. It is your own behaviour that has caused your problems and nothing will change until you change. People have told you they are willing to forgive so you can start over but your behaviour does not change. The more you try to cover things up, the worse it makes you look. Yes, it is going to take a while to live down the way you have acted but you are the one that is keeping it going. People have told you why you are having problems yet you don't change. It's almost as if you like to have all this drama.
You want respect, then start earning it.
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Really? I just looked through all your posts and I don't see anyone disrespecting you. People have answered your questions(I know I did), people have taken your input into consideration, people have given you other options for pets(thus making everyone else WANT a rat :lol: ). It looked like everything was going well.
Now it feels like you're disrespecting THEM, because you don't like them being nice to you, so you want to leave again? What have you done to deserve respect?
Going around saying that life is unfair is a poor excuse for your behaviour. Life is unfair for everyone, and we just have to work through it. So far, I've lost my dog, my cat, both my chinchillas, both my birds, my rabbit from when I was little...Guess what? Many people are on depression meds(I know I am) to just be barely getting by(and almost end up at the hospital, but I was home alone with no one to take me). And you know what? I'm not here looking for pity, not here to look for sympathy. I'm here to make sure I do whatever I can to give my boy a healthy and happy home.
Perhaps you really should take a step back and REALLY think about why you are here, and why you want a hedgie. If you are looking for absolute unconditional love, not all hedgies will give it to you. Some people may luck out, and some people will have absolute grumpy balls of needles. There are many other options for pets who would show that devotion actively and willingly. Like the rats that were mentioned, ferrets can be fun too(I've wanted one for a long time as well), my chinchilla was very sweet and LOVED getting scratched under her chin, and would alternate sides. If you want more options, then go back to your thread that you had started, and ask more about the rats, ask about what other pets other people have owned, and the pros and cons of each. Then you can determine which sort of animal suits you the best, and go from there.
Even better option. Go to your local SPCA and start volunteering. You'll be surrounded by desperate animals who just want love and care. You can learn a lot about animal care, and from there decide which animal suits your needs.
Now it feels like you're disrespecting THEM, because you don't like them being nice to you, so you want to leave again? What have you done to deserve respect?
Going around saying that life is unfair is a poor excuse for your behaviour. Life is unfair for everyone, and we just have to work through it. So far, I've lost my dog, my cat, both my chinchillas, both my birds, my rabbit from when I was little...Guess what? Many people are on depression meds(I know I am) to just be barely getting by(and almost end up at the hospital, but I was home alone with no one to take me). And you know what? I'm not here looking for pity, not here to look for sympathy. I'm here to make sure I do whatever I can to give my boy a healthy and happy home.
Perhaps you really should take a step back and REALLY think about why you are here, and why you want a hedgie. If you are looking for absolute unconditional love, not all hedgies will give it to you. Some people may luck out, and some people will have absolute grumpy balls of needles. There are many other options for pets who would show that devotion actively and willingly. Like the rats that were mentioned, ferrets can be fun too(I've wanted one for a long time as well), my chinchilla was very sweet and LOVED getting scratched under her chin, and would alternate sides. If you want more options, then go back to your thread that you had started, and ask more about the rats, ask about what other pets other people have owned, and the pros and cons of each. Then you can determine which sort of animal suits you the best, and go from there.
Even better option. Go to your local SPCA and start volunteering. You'll be surrounded by desperate animals who just want love and care. You can learn a lot about animal care, and from there decide which animal suits your needs.
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Megan,
I am truly sorry that you feel that people have not been treating you with respect. However, as Nancy mentioned, it's your behavior that has caused your problems. People have been nothing but supportive on here offering suggestions and even answering your multiple posts over and over again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with belonging to numerous forums and collecting information but when you question the integrity of the advice given (especially by breeders with years upon years of experience) and decide to just do what you want, people ARE going to have a problem with that! I've read some of your posts on another website as well and I saw quite a few times where you said that you were getting a hedgehog but never actually went through with it (for a multitude of reasons that I will not get into). This flip-flopping, multiple posts asking the same question, wanting to breed before knowing ANYTHING about hedgehogs (let alone breeding them), having to ask your father for permission (at 23 years old? Not saying it isn't true or that it doesn't happen but it adds to the doubt of your age), seeming more concerned about finding a name for your hedgie than finding the proper housing, "deleting" your account and then starting another under another name and then trying to lie about it; these things all have led to what you consider "lack of respect".
I know that you have said in the past that you are suffering from the loss of your beloved dog who was your best friend. I think that's something that most people on here can relate to~ We have all lost someone or something close to us and it's not easy!! I know all about depression and Bi-Polar Disorder and they are to be taken very seriously. To replace a pet that has passed on with another pet isn't always the best idea, but if you are looking for a place to learn about hedgehogs and to make new friends then this is the place. I think that your decision on getting a hedgehog was a bit spur of the moment and more research would be the best idea (perhaps more reading and listening and less posting are key)! Sure we all think hedgehogs are adorable, but that doesn't make them the right pet for everyone. Everyone has welcomed you with open arms even accepting your apologies and request for a fresh start. I know we've all need that at one point or another in our lives and this could be yours! Please think about what you are saying because I think it's more a case of "you get what you give".
Again, if you do feel that online forums are not the way for you, just be sure to do all the research you can before deciding on owning an exotic pet. A hedgehog is a far cry from a dog~ that I can guarantee. But maybe down the road, you will decide that it's the right animal for you and I hope that by then you have realized that the people here (and on the other forums) only want what's best for the hedgehogs and would NEVER steer you wrong!
You have my e-mail if you ever want to talk. I'm also in NJ and was recently approved for the Hedgehog Welfare Society (yay!!) and want nothing but the best for our spikey little friends. But I also don't want you to leave feeling shunned because no one ever wanted you to feel that way.
Thanks for your time,
Melissa & Miss Muffet
I am truly sorry that you feel that people have not been treating you with respect. However, as Nancy mentioned, it's your behavior that has caused your problems. People have been nothing but supportive on here offering suggestions and even answering your multiple posts over and over again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with belonging to numerous forums and collecting information but when you question the integrity of the advice given (especially by breeders with years upon years of experience) and decide to just do what you want, people ARE going to have a problem with that! I've read some of your posts on another website as well and I saw quite a few times where you said that you were getting a hedgehog but never actually went through with it (for a multitude of reasons that I will not get into). This flip-flopping, multiple posts asking the same question, wanting to breed before knowing ANYTHING about hedgehogs (let alone breeding them), having to ask your father for permission (at 23 years old? Not saying it isn't true or that it doesn't happen but it adds to the doubt of your age), seeming more concerned about finding a name for your hedgie than finding the proper housing, "deleting" your account and then starting another under another name and then trying to lie about it; these things all have led to what you consider "lack of respect".
I know that you have said in the past that you are suffering from the loss of your beloved dog who was your best friend. I think that's something that most people on here can relate to~ We have all lost someone or something close to us and it's not easy!! I know all about depression and Bi-Polar Disorder and they are to be taken very seriously. To replace a pet that has passed on with another pet isn't always the best idea, but if you are looking for a place to learn about hedgehogs and to make new friends then this is the place. I think that your decision on getting a hedgehog was a bit spur of the moment and more research would be the best idea (perhaps more reading and listening and less posting are key)! Sure we all think hedgehogs are adorable, but that doesn't make them the right pet for everyone. Everyone has welcomed you with open arms even accepting your apologies and request for a fresh start. I know we've all need that at one point or another in our lives and this could be yours! Please think about what you are saying because I think it's more a case of "you get what you give".
Again, if you do feel that online forums are not the way for you, just be sure to do all the research you can before deciding on owning an exotic pet. A hedgehog is a far cry from a dog~ that I can guarantee. But maybe down the road, you will decide that it's the right animal for you and I hope that by then you have realized that the people here (and on the other forums) only want what's best for the hedgehogs and would NEVER steer you wrong!
You have my e-mail if you ever want to talk. I'm also in NJ and was recently approved for the Hedgehog Welfare Society (yay!!) and want nothing but the best for our spikey little friends. But I also don't want you to leave feeling shunned because no one ever wanted you to feel that way.
Thanks for your time,
Melissa & Miss Muffet
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To be honest, some of the people on HHC can be a little quick to judge others. I can understand why Megan feels the way she does. It can be a bit intimidating at times, but they do have the hedgehog's best interest in mind. I'm not trying to justify her behavior at all, but it is often difficult to see through the eyes of others. I'm sure she didn't mean to cause such a mess, nor did everyone else mean to make her feel so unwelcome.
Megan,
I'm very sorry for your terrible experiences in life. I think mel2626 explained it perfectly why people are so angry with you. Please take her words into serious consideration. I also think a ferret would be a great pet. They are so adorable and love to play with you. I too live in NJ so if you ever need advice feel free to contact me. =)
Megan,
I'm very sorry for your terrible experiences in life. I think mel2626 explained it perfectly why people are so angry with you. Please take her words into serious consideration. I also think a ferret would be a great pet. They are so adorable and love to play with you. I too live in NJ so if you ever need advice feel free to contact me. =)
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Sorry, but we are not gonna delete your account. You will just create a 3rd account.
I am sorry that you do not feel respected.
I am sorry that you do not feel respected.
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Megan,
Respect has been taught by parents and teachers from kindergarten and up. It takes time to gain, but a second to lose. Heck, it's even in a song!
All the HHC members have been as respectful to you as you are to them: when you're nice= they're nice, and vice-versa. You recieved a second chance by the moderators and basically everyone on here, but now you want your account to be deleted again, after like 4 days of having a new one? Why?
Everyone here is dedicated to hedgehogs and doesn't want any hedgehog to be harmed or mistreated when they can have a say in how it could be better treated.
Now, even if they are not going to delete your new account, you have two options: stay and try again to be respectful and nice (and in turn being treated the same way) or just never came on here again and leaving your account inactive.-point blank.
I'm just stating the facts and opinions that I have gathered over the time you have been originally on HHC till now and how you have acted and posted. It's not my say as to what option you choose and I'm not being mean, but please make the decision that you will commit to. ...My two cents... :|
Respect has been taught by parents and teachers from kindergarten and up. It takes time to gain, but a second to lose. Heck, it's even in a song!
All the HHC members have been as respectful to you as you are to them: when you're nice= they're nice, and vice-versa. You recieved a second chance by the moderators and basically everyone on here, but now you want your account to be deleted again, after like 4 days of having a new one? Why?
Everyone here is dedicated to hedgehogs and doesn't want any hedgehog to be harmed or mistreated when they can have a say in how it could be better treated.
Now, even if they are not going to delete your new account, you have two options: stay and try again to be respectful and nice (and in turn being treated the same way) or just never came on here again and leaving your account inactive.-point blank.
I'm just stating the facts and opinions that I have gathered over the time you have been originally on HHC till now and how you have acted and posted. It's not my say as to what option you choose and I'm not being mean, but please make the decision that you will commit to. ...My two cents... :|
Here you go again. I'm done with trying to help you. If you honestly do not see where you have been caught in lies or why people are so frustrated with you, then you need more help than any of us can give you. As I have said numerous times before, just because you edit your posts after someone calls you on what you wrote, people still remember what you've said.allears.fan said:
I will say once more, I think you continue because you like the drama.
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It has to be a love of drama, its the only thing that makes sense at this point.
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Ohh...ohhh... wait... I want in on the drama... :twisted:Nancy said:
You know... technically, you can "quote" anyone as saying anything... like this:
Nancy said:
smhufflepuff said:
Not even a real account name said:
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If Megan is truly just a drama queen, wouldn't getting angry be fueling her cause?
If Megan is not really a drama queen, wouldn't getting angry oppose our cause to help hedgehogs?
Either way, getting angry doesn't solve problems, just promotes them.
I'm sorry if this sounds unfavorable, but I think some of us on here like the drama as well. Again, I'm not suggesting her behavior was acceptable at all. I think others have already made it clear where her mistakes lie, so I do not feel the need to beat a dead horse. I immensely respect many of you and mean not to cause grief, just an insight on ourselves.
Besides...
Women love drama. What else can I say? :lol: j/k
Edit: SmhufflePuff... you are awesome :lol:
If Megan is not really a drama queen, wouldn't getting angry oppose our cause to help hedgehogs?
Either way, getting angry doesn't solve problems, just promotes them.
I'm sorry if this sounds unfavorable, but I think some of us on here like the drama as well. Again, I'm not suggesting her behavior was acceptable at all. I think others have already made it clear where her mistakes lie, so I do not feel the need to beat a dead horse. I immensely respect many of you and mean not to cause grief, just an insight on ourselves.
Besides...
Women love drama. What else can I say? :lol: j/k
Edit: SmhufflePuff... you are awesome :lol:
Her post was there when I replied to it. When I submitted it the first time it didn't go through which usually means someone else is replying at the same time. I backed up and submitted it again and it went through. So how do you quote somebody without quoting?
hihihi****e, if she wants it to quit, all she has to do is stop. If you take a look at her post history you will see that her apology post was on Saturday. After that, everything was fine and she was posting like everyone else, people were replying, all was well. Then suddenly yesterday just out of the blue she again asks to have her account deleted. Nobody had said anything even the least bit mean to her and all was going well yet she starts in again with people not respecting her. We didn't start it, she did and had she not opened it up again, all would have been going along like normal.
hihihi****e, if she wants it to quit, all she has to do is stop. If you take a look at her post history you will see that her apology post was on Saturday. After that, everything was fine and she was posting like everyone else, people were replying, all was well. Then suddenly yesterday just out of the blue she again asks to have her account deleted. Nobody had said anything even the least bit mean to her and all was going well yet she starts in again with people not respecting her. We didn't start it, she did and had she not opened it up again, all would have been going along like normal.
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You still click the Quote button but you can then edit anything within the brackets of the quote command. As I just did to shorten your quote. I could also type in something like "everyone loves Nancy!! just by typing the commands within brackets.Nancy said:
People-stop.
These are obviously attention-seeking behaviors. Anyone who has ever been around a toddler knows that some children will seek any type of attention, even negative attention. All you are doing is giving *fill in whatever name she's using now* exactly what she wants: the center of attention.
You have all given good, sound advice. You've all exhibited patience and tolerance and now it's time to move on. Let Little Miss Meghan flounce all she wants. Honestly, she sounds like an angst-ridden 13 year old emo-boy.
Let it go. No hedgehog is in danger and she's been given correct info in case she does get one. We can't make her listen. We can't make her into a decent human being and we can't force her to give proper care.
Sayanara
These are obviously attention-seeking behaviors. Anyone who has ever been around a toddler knows that some children will seek any type of attention, even negative attention. All you are doing is giving *fill in whatever name she's using now* exactly what she wants: the center of attention.
You have all given good, sound advice. You've all exhibited patience and tolerance and now it's time to move on. Let Little Miss Meghan flounce all she wants. Honestly, she sounds like an angst-ridden 13 year old emo-boy.
Let it go. No hedgehog is in danger and she's been given correct info in case she does get one. We can't make her listen. We can't make her into a decent human being and we can't force her to give proper care.
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