What you can do is put a shirt in the cage with you smell on it.....And let her slowly warm up to you. You will also probalby post a picture of the cage or carrier that you think is to small. other then that you should look in genral question for more help. This happens to almost everyone. I can usure you. She will warm up to you, Also put her in a blanket and cuddle with her while you are watching tv or on the computer. 