As Larry said, most of the time the chat doesn't get used. There's designated chat times, if you look under the general discussion section (I think).
Best thing to do is go through all of the stickies in each section. It's also helpful to read all of the different topics posted in the sections, to learn more about different problems other people have had. You can also use the search function if you want to look up a specific topic or question.
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