thank youI think you kinda answered your own question; if she likes dark places to settle down, then keeping her in a dark place is what she needs to calm her down. If she relaxes in a snuggle sack when she has a sock she can burrow herself into to make it dark for herself, then offer this to her so she can relax during bonding time.
Hedgehogs are nocturnal; they don’t like being woken up and being kept in bright lights when they want to sleep - and hey, who would?