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allears.fan 03-23-2010 10:58 AM

Please permanently delete account
 
I am wanting my account to be deleted and all forum websites to be in my past due to the lack of respect i am getting from forum websites these days.

Nancy 03-23-2010 11:22 AM

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People get respect when they earn it. Asking for your account and your posts to be deleted only makes you look bad. If you are being truthful you would not feel the need to edit your posts or to ask to have them removed.

Why not show some maturity and start posting like everyone else. Quit blaming your problems with the forums on other people. It is your own behaviour that has caused your problems and nothing will change until you change. People have told you they are willing to forgive so you can start over but your behaviour does not change. The more you try to cover things up, the worse it makes you look. Yes, it is going to take a while to live down the way you have acted but you are the one that is keeping it going. People have told you why you are having problems yet you don't change. It's almost as if you like to have all this drama.

You want respect, then start earning it.

Immortalia 03-23-2010 12:04 PM

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Really? I just looked through all your posts and I don't see anyone disrespecting you. People have answered your questions(I know I did), people have taken your input into consideration, people have given you other options for pets(thus making everyone else WANT a rat :lol: ). It looked like everything was going well.

Now it feels like you're disrespecting THEM, because you don't like them being nice to you, so you want to leave again? What have you done to deserve respect?

Going around saying that life is unfair is a poor excuse for your behaviour. Life is unfair for everyone, and we just have to work through it. So far, I've lost my dog, my cat, both my chinchillas, both my birds, my rabbit from when I was little...Guess what? Many people are on depression meds(I know I am) to just be barely getting by(and almost end up at the hospital, but I was home alone with no one to take me). And you know what? I'm not here looking for pity, not here to look for sympathy. I'm here to make sure I do whatever I can to give my boy a healthy and happy home.

Perhaps you really should take a step back and REALLY think about why you are here, and why you want a hedgie. If you are looking for absolute unconditional love, not all hedgies will give it to you. Some people may luck out, and some people will have absolute grumpy balls of needles. There are many other options for pets who would show that devotion actively and willingly. Like the rats that were mentioned, ferrets can be fun too(I've wanted one for a long time as well), my chinchilla was very sweet and LOVED getting scratched under her chin, and would alternate sides. If you want more options, then go back to your thread that you had started, and ask more about the rats, ask about what other pets other people have owned, and the pros and cons of each. Then you can determine which sort of animal suits you the best, and go from there.

Even better option. Go to your local SPCA and start volunteering. You'll be surrounded by desperate animals who just want love and care. You can learn a lot about animal care, and from there decide which animal suits your needs.

mel2626 03-23-2010 12:25 PM

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Megan,

I am truly sorry that you feel that people have not been treating you with respect. However, as Nancy mentioned, it's your behavior that has caused your problems. People have been nothing but supportive on here offering suggestions and even answering your multiple posts over and over again. There is absolutely nothing wrong with belonging to numerous forums and collecting information but when you question the integrity of the advice given (especially by breeders with years upon years of experience) and decide to just do what you want, people ARE going to have a problem with that! I've read some of your posts on another website as well and I saw quite a few times where you said that you were getting a hedgehog but never actually went through with it (for a multitude of reasons that I will not get into). This flip-flopping, multiple posts asking the same question, wanting to breed before knowing ANYTHING about hedgehogs (let alone breeding them), having to ask your father for permission (at 23 years old? Not saying it isn't true or that it doesn't happen but it adds to the doubt of your age), seeming more concerned about finding a name for your hedgie than finding the proper housing, "deleting" your account and then starting another under another name and then trying to lie about it; these things all have led to what you consider "lack of respect".

I know that you have said in the past that you are suffering from the loss of your beloved dog who was your best friend. I think that's something that most people on here can relate to~ We have all lost someone or something close to us and it's not easy!! I know all about depression and Bi-Polar Disorder and they are to be taken very seriously. To replace a pet that has passed on with another pet isn't always the best idea, but if you are looking for a place to learn about hedgehogs and to make new friends then this is the place. I think that your decision on getting a hedgehog was a bit spur of the moment and more research would be the best idea (perhaps more reading and listening and less posting are key)! Sure we all think hedgehogs are adorable, but that doesn't make them the right pet for everyone. Everyone has welcomed you with open arms even accepting your apologies and request for a fresh start. I know we've all need that at one point or another in our lives and this could be yours! Please think about what you are saying because I think it's more a case of "you get what you give".

Again, if you do feel that online forums are not the way for you, just be sure to do all the research you can before deciding on owning an exotic pet. A hedgehog is a far cry from a dog~ that I can guarantee. But maybe down the road, you will decide that it's the right animal for you and I hope that by then you have realized that the people here (and on the other forums) only want what's best for the hedgehogs and would NEVER steer you wrong!

You have my e-mail if you ever want to talk. I'm also in NJ and was recently approved for the Hedgehog Welfare Society (yay!!) and want nothing but the best for our spikey little friends. But I also don't want you to leave feeling shunned because no one ever wanted you to feel that way.

Thanks for your time,

Melissa & Miss Muffet

hihihishite 03-23-2010 01:20 PM

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To be honest, some of the people on HHC can be a little quick to judge others. I can understand why Megan feels the way she does. It can be a bit intimidating at times, but they do have the hedgehog's best interest in mind. I'm not trying to justify her behavior at all, but it is often difficult to see through the eyes of others. I'm sure she didn't mean to cause such a mess, nor did everyone else mean to make her feel so unwelcome.

Megan,
I'm very sorry for your terrible experiences in life. I think mel2626 explained it perfectly why people are so angry with you. Please take her words into serious consideration. I also think a ferret would be a great pet. They are so adorable and love to play with you. I too live in NJ so if you ever need advice feel free to contact me. =)

Hedgiepets 03-23-2010 05:48 PM

Re: Please permanently delete account
 
Sorry, but we are not gonna delete your account. You will just create a 3rd account.

I am sorry that you do not feel respected.

tie-dye hedgie 03-23-2010 06:40 PM

Re: Please permanently delete account
 
Megan,
Respect has been taught by parents and teachers from kindergarten and up. It takes time to gain, but a second to lose. Heck, it's even in a song!
All the HHC members have been as respectful to you as you are to them: when you're nice= they're nice, and vice-versa. You recieved a second chance by the moderators and basically everyone on here, but now you want your account to be deleted again, after like 4 days of having a new one? Why?
Everyone here is dedicated to hedgehogs and doesn't want any hedgehog to be harmed or mistreated when they can have a say in how it could be better treated.
Now, even if they are not going to delete your new account, you have two options: stay and try again to be respectful and nice (and in turn being treated the same way) or just never came on here again and leaving your account inactive.-point blank.
I'm just stating the facts and opinions that I have gathered over the time you have been originally on HHC till now and how you have acted and posted. It's not my say as to what option you choose and I'm not being mean, but please make the decision that you will commit to. ...My two cents... :|

Nancy 03-23-2010 10:09 PM

Re: Please permanently delete account
 
Quote:

Originally Posted by allears.fan
I apologize for being unruly on here (again). I had came across some nasty posts about me on another forum. I would love to be a part of something bigger then going on this journey alone.

On other forums some people said i haven't been truth. ALl i have been was truthful. I don't see what makes people think I'm a lier and negatively talk about somebody in general. All i did was ask whether or not a breeder was reputable and everybody else started talking negatively about a breeder. If you are on that forum as well, you will know what i am talking about.

So as you can see my experiances with forum websites have not been positive which is why i sometimes act defendsive towards people and act the way i do. People have accused me of stuff that I haven't done.

And i know everybody is in deed looking for the care hedgehogs.

Here you go again. I'm done with trying to help you. If you honestly do not see where you have been caught in lies or why people are so frustrated with you, then you need more help than any of us can give you. As I have said numerous times before, just because you edit your posts after someone calls you on what you wrote, people still remember what you've said.

I will say once more, I think you continue because you like the drama.

Herisson 03-23-2010 10:58 PM

Re: Please permanently delete account
 
Drama belongs on Melrose Place. This forum has turned into Hedgehog Place. :evil:


Hedgieonboard 03-24-2010 02:30 AM

Re: Please permanently delete account
 
It has to be a love of drama, its the only thing that makes sense at this point.


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