Re: Mildly disturbed by the issue of "boy time"
It depends on the hedgehog. Some grow out of it, some don't. My first male did it within 30 seconds of sitting on my shoulder when he first came home and hasn't done it since. From what I read, it just needs a slightly longer soak period during baths to get it out.
If you don't want to deal with any of it, then I would suggest a female. It's one of those things that comes with hedgehogs.