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Old 12-24-2019, 02:15 AM   #1 (permalink)
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So two weeks ago my little newton (who was about 4 years old) had trouble breathing, walking, eating, etc. I brought him to the vet and he suddenly and unexpectedly died right during the check up. The news caught me by surprise so much that I cried for days (it also happened during my final exams which was even worse). Anyways, I got a new hedgehog today hoping it would help with my loss but their personalities are so different it makes me miss newton so much. I realized that no hedgehog is ever gonna act or be the way Newton was and it hurts so much. Any advice?
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Old 12-24-2019, 10:11 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Take it one day at a time. Don't try to push down your emotions, you are mourning, its OK. Concentrate on good memories of them, and not of the last day. If it helps to talk to someone find someone who will listen, if no one surrounding you seems to understand, talk to us.

Try to not allow yourself to treat your new hedgehog as a replacement. That can be hard as we seek what we once had. I was once told, When they leave us they take a small piece of our hearts with them. Each we care for will add a new piece back to your heart. It will not fit perfectly, but they will bring their own memories and love.


Its ok to mourn for Newton while also learning to interact and love your new hedgehog. Love your new hedgehog for who he/she is. Let the lessons Newton taught you help guide you in providing care for your new one.

We are here if you want to tell stories about Newton, or are questioning anything you are doing with your new one.

What is your new hedgehog's name? Boy/Girl? Tell us their story too.
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Old 01-18-2020, 04:43 PM   #3 (permalink)
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My baby HeijiSan died suddenly too. I have a hard time remembering things so every time I lose one I write down everything I remember about them. I may not look back at it for a while, but it's always there. Every piece of them that they left with me. It'll always hurt to look back at but in the end I see that as a good thing. The only way losing them could make you hurt this bad was if having them made you that happy. You'll lose every hedgehog you have in your life, they don't live long. But we keep getting them because they add that much to us. And even if they're messy ungrateful little hogs, always remember that they were going to live and die anyway, but being with you made it a safe, comfortable, hopefully happy life. And that's all either of you could ever ask of each other.
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Old 01-24-2020, 11:17 PM   #4 (permalink)
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I'm sorry for both of you. My 1st Oliver died either right when we got home or at the Vets office also. I was so mad, I think they knew it and didn't say anything. The reason I think that is because he would not settle down (daytime) and he never did that before. It took a long time for that to subside somewhat. I still think of him everyday.

My Oliver II just passed away on New Years Eve also. He was only 1 year 10+ months old, way too young. The vet said he had WHS, his rear legs quit on him and then he wouldn't eat. I was off work so I care for him. I tried everything I could think of and had some help from this website as well (Thank you all). After a week or so his front legs started acting up and it was so devastating watching as he tried to pull himself around. Anyway I was sitting by him watching TV (he was kind of sleeping off and on), but I told him he could go (so hard to do) and he finally did. No more suffering. I had both cremated and their ashes put in urns, I loved (love) them both so much. It will take some time for it not to hurt so darn much. Hope you can have those good thoughts that was mentioned, I know I'll try that.
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